How many times have we heard the old adage writers are solitary creatures?

And how many times, upon hearing this statement, have you nodded your head in agreement?

That's what I was worried about.

This statement has begun to define our existence as writers. Yes, we work in our own heads the vast majority of the time. Yes, we're so busy creating that in our real lives, jobs, family, kids, we don't have time for anything else. Yes, it's very easy to nod and agree when people say writing is a solitary venture.

Guess what. It's not.

Stephen King's glorious book ON WRITING tells of a somewhat supernatural contract between writer and reader, a kind of ESP that exists because the writer puts the words on paper and the reader ultimately, well, reads said words and a psychic connection is formed between the two entities. He writes in one time and space, and the reader is able to read his mind regardless of their plane of existence, simply by reading the words.

Cool, huh?

But what happens in between the writer putting the words on the paper and the reader reading them?

A LOT.

Outlines, synopses, rough drafts, final drafts, revisions galore, agent reads, editor reads, revisions galore again, copy edits, galleys. Then ARC's, reviews, sales to bookstores, inside sales, book tours, marketing and promotion dollars, conferences...

oOkay, you getting the idea.

I don't disagree for a moment that there's a psychic connection between writer and reader. There's just a butt-load that goes on in between those steps to make it happen.

And your editor and agent are a vital part of everything that happens with your book.

I've always said how lucky I am to have actually laid eyes on my agent and my editors. Now I'm starting to realize that this is a must.

I know, I've heard the stories too, of authors who've never met their editors or agents even after a forty-year relationship. They've talked on the phone, they've emailed, sure. But they've never met face to face.

I don't know if this scenario is good for the writer.

There are ample opportunities on the genre calendar to find a way to meet up with your editor and agent. They don't go to conferences? They don't travel to symposiums? Well, go to them.

I'm not kidding. I always said that if I got a deal, the first thing I was going to do was fly to New York to sign the contracts. (Of course, this was back in my silly naive days when I thought that contracts happened in an overnight kind of time frame – I didn't realize just how long everything takes in the industry.)

Instead, right after I got that fateful phone call, I learned that my editor was going to be attending Thrillerfest.

Well, that took care of that.

I met Linda in Phoenix, we broke bread, laughed, found lots of things in common we'd already touched upon on the phone, and started what I believe will be a long and fruitful relationship.

And blessings on top of blessings, the MIRA team was at Thrillerfest to promote THRILLER, ITW's great anthology, so I got to meet the bosses too.

When deadlines got in the way of my plans to go to Bouchercon in Madison so I could meet my agent, I made different plans. I went to New York instead. Scott, Linda and I had lunch, I reaffirmed that he is, in fact, quite a great guy who doesn't bite, and all three of us were able to sit down together and discuss some of the plans for the series.

THAT is worth its weight in gold, my friends.

I know this isn't the cheapest proposition in the world. It's expensive to go to conferences. It's worse to take a two day trip in the name of research, trust me. But I wouldn't trade actually meeting both of them face to face for the world.

It's an investment in my career. And it should be the same for you.

Name one business that doesn't have meetings between clients and principals. Industries and businesses in this country and abroad still rely on that face-to-face meeting. Think about how many historic deals were done with just a handshake? A man's word was his bond: spit in the palm, clasp hands, and Bob's your uncle. Even now, with technology allowing instant access between a corporations offices, clients, etc., they've perfected the video conference.

I think there's something about human nature that tells us if we can look into another person's eyes, we can judge whether we're being sold a bridge or not.

Why should writers be any different from any other business person?

Short answer. We aren't, and we shouldn't.

Go forth and mingle, friends. Meet the people who are helping you make that psychic connection. If you don't have a deal yet, get thee to a conference where you can pitch. Make a good impression. Try. We don't have to be solitary little creatures. The industry as a whole will be better for our active involvement in OUR futures.